Dating a guy with no job
But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on. A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here.Instead of being upfront and honest with you when you’ve pissed him off or hurt his feelings, he just shuts down or finds subtle ways to make your life difficult. If this guy intentionally does the opposite of what’s expected from him just for the sake of being contrarian, that’s a sign of insecurity, immaturity or douche-baggery.This guy has an unrealistic and outdated idea of what it means to be a man.He thinks that unless everything is done on his terms, he’ll be perceived as weak-willed. Maybe it’s an old gender role, but men are expected to be reasonably handy.But the difference between a man and a boy is that the man knows you hate that kind of shit and makes a suggestion anyway.If this guy is rude to waiters or won’t play nice with your friends, he’s either playing the bad boy or he really is one.This can be an endearing quality, but it will get frustrating if you’re trying to plan a life with someone incapable of commitment. Still, when we’re drawn to people, we tend to make excuses for their faults. How can you expect to have an adult relationship with someone who’s never left the nest?
If he doesn’t have your back when you get into a confrontation (even if he doesn’t agree with you), he either doesn’t give a shit about you or he’s a coward. There’s nothing productive about assigning or arguing about blame. It’s been said many times that arguing in relationships is a good thing — it proves you’re both invested.
If he throws in the towel every time he meets a little bit of resistance, he’s still too wet behind the ears.
In today’s world, there are very few reasons to be completely unreachable for any length of time.
He needs to know how to change a tire, mount a towel rack or at the very least, put together an IKEA bookshelf without bursting into tears.
I’m all for going out and getting blasted every once in a while, but after college, it shouldn’t be the whole point of every night out.