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It’s often “different strokes for different folks,” as the old saying goes.
The lyrics to an old TV sitcom—“Diff’rent Strokes” —often reminded me as I was growing up: “What might be right for you may not be right for some.”Many single men (LDS men included) supposedly go by this rule of thumb: “You can date someone who is half your age, plus seven.” As we get older, this allows for more flexibility in age gaps.
Many women who date younger men, whatever the age gap may be, find that they have the unfortunate label of “cougar” attached to them.
It can give new meaning to the phrase, “Rise and shout, the Cougars are out!
But remember: every person you date comes with baggage.
“Most guys I've met who are within one year or more younger than me refuse to consider me as a dating option. I thought that would change as I got older and they realized it was just a number and that a few years didn't make all that much of a difference. I find the whole situation frustrating and ridiculous.”I hope that this friend’s unfortunate experiences are the exception and not the rule.She, in fact, asked me out first, which was a gesture I greatly appreciated and one that I later reciprocated.However, I remember that our age difference seemed to be something of a big deal to her sister.People say “age is just a number” all the time, but do they practice what they preach? Age signifies so much more than just a number: it can reflect your maturity, your stage in life, and your experience. Not every 21-year-old is on the same playing field--some are already gearing up for the ninth inning while others are just jumping into the dating game. As far as relationships go, it can get complicated.Not long ago, I read a biography of Church President John Taylor and learned that his first wife, Leonora Cannon Taylor, was 12 years older than he was!In other words: A few years really shouldn’t matter all that much in the eternal perspective.One day, this sister directed a snarky, can’t-tell-if-she’s-kidding, “robbing-the-cradle” comment in my direction.Even if she were kidding, there is always at least a glint of truth in every sarcastic remark.Certainly, a five-year age gap would have made a significant difference to both of us just a few years prior to that time.As we were both in our 20s, though, it didn’t matter to either of us.