Dating to relationship transition
In fact, some researchers have said that the only difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship is the label.
So if you’re starting from a friendship, you’re not far off. People are often uncomfortable if they cannot predict others’ behavior and unpredictablity is common in the beginning stages of a romantic relationship.
However much is known about heterosexual relationship formation based on friendship, less is known about how homosexual friend pairs become romantic. He studies how people dream about their partners (and alternatives), and how dreams influence behavior. Selterman studies secure base support in couples, jealousy, morality, and autobiographical memory.
This would be another area ripe for empirical analysis. Click here for other topics on Science of Relationships.
As for what facilitates the transition, your social network can play a big role.Dear Corina, The answer is yes, friends can (and often do) become lovers, although as your question implies, the transition can be somewhat awkward.Interestingly, research has found that romantic relationships do not necessarily differ from close friendships in terms of emotional connection/intimacy, shared activities, or even sex (hence the term “friends with benefits”).So I walked away and hadn’t talked to him for a year.Last week, I bumped into him unexpectedly on evening at a social event when I was spending time with my close friends. I extended my hand to shake his, however he transgressed my boundaries by hugging me.After the end of our dating relationship three years ago, I was devastated. For the last two years, I was doing all of the hard work and effort to maintain this friendship.Last year, when I was planning to go to visit another good friend in New York, he happened to be going there at the same time. When he told me he really preferred to fly by himself, it felt like a slap in the face because of all the effort I had put into this friendship.Like us on Facebook to get our articles delivered directly to your News Feed. Irene, I really cared a lot about someone whom I dated.I’m sure it was difficult for you to accept that he no longer valued even the remaining vestiges of your friendship.My guess is that he didn’t want to embarrass you, himself, or others at the social event---either by ignoring you or going into the details of your prior relationship.